Unit 5 All you need is love
Inside view
Conversation 1
Kate Hi, Becky, how's it going?
Becky Good!
Mark Guys, look, can you help me with a problem?
Janet Yes, of course.
Mark The thing is, there's this girl I really like called Jenny Sparks. She's a Fresher, realty stunning, reads history. I know her name because someone pointed her out to me, but I've never actually spoken to her. Do either of you know her?
Kate No.
Janet No, I don't know her. Mark, how can you like her if you haven't met her?
Kate It's because she's absolutely gorgeous, Janet.
Mark That's right! I want to ask her out, but first I've got to meet her. Got any suggestions?
Becky Guys! You want to order?
Mark Sorry.
Kate Three cappuccinos?
Becky Sure.
Janet Do you know anyone who knows her? You could ask them to introduce you.
Mark No, I don't, that's the problem.
Kate Are you matchmaking, Janet?
Janet What's matchmaking?
Kate Making introductions between people who might like each other. We don't do that here. How about just walking up to her and saying Hi? Why don't you do that?
Mark No.
Kate Why not?
Mark I'm not usually shy, but - she's so ... you know ...!
Janet Oh, Mark!
Kate Just believe in yourself, Mark. You're a great guy!
Janet I understand Mark completely.
Kate Well, it's the only way he's going to get to talk to her.
Mark OK, I'll give it a try.
Becky Solved the Jenny problem yet? ,
Girls Thank you.
Janet You'll be fine. Mark. She'll like him, won't she, Becky?
Becky Of course she will!
Conversation 2
Mark Hey, guess what, guys, I've got a date with Jenny.
Kate You did it, you asked her out?
Janet When are you seeing her?
Mark Saturday. We're going to The Eagle and Child.
Janet Sounds great.
Mark Yeah! The thing is, I'm a bit nervous.
Janet Are you?
Mark Yes, I'm afraid I'll make a fool of myself. I could do with some more advice.
Kate Any ideas?
Janet Um ... I'm thinking.
Kate Well... One thing is ... if you're nervous, it's easy to talk too much, so remember not to do that.
Mark Good point. I'll remember that.
Janet You should make her feel special. Show her you're really interested in her.
Mark I am really interested in her.
Janet Well, you should show her you are.
Mark That'll be easy! What else?
Kate It's a good idea to look good.
Mark That's pretty相当的 obvious!
Kate I mean clean clothes, Mark!
Mark Oh ... thanks, Kate! Any more advice?
Kate Yes, the most important thing is, just be yourself.
Becky How's it going, Mark?
Kate He's worried this girl won't like him.
Becky She'll love you! Ready to order?
Outside view
Part 1
Voice-over Finding someone to love isn't easy. For years, single people have looked for prospective mates in a few tried-and-true ways. They met in school or at work, through friends or relatives. Or they met by chance in bars, at weddings, or at parties. Today there's a new way to find that special someone. Many people have met boyfriends, girlfriends, fiancés, husbands, and wives in a way that didn't exist up to about ten years ago. The Internet has completely changed the world of dating. Anyone can look for a match online at one of hundreds of different websites like these.
Consultant There are approximately 150 million singles in North America, and what's interesting is that a lot of them are trying online dating.
Speaker 1 I've never tried Internet dating.
Speaker 2 I have friends who have tried Internet dating, and one of them is getting married to the person he dated.
Speaker 3 I have not tried Internet dating, but I have a friend who has.
Speaker 4 I have not tried Internet dating.
Speaker 5 I have tried Internet dating. I had one good experience and one bad experience
Speaker 6 I've tried Internet dating. It worked out very well.
Carol Hi!
Daughter Hi!
Carol Oh, it's good to see you! You look great!
Daughter Thank you.
Carol Hey, I love the color.
Daughter Thank you. Come in, come in.
Voice-over How does Internet dating work? Carol is about to find out. She's having dinner with her daughter, who has just registered on an Internet dating site.
Carol So how's work?
Daughter Work is really good. It's busy, so I've been making money.
Carol Good. Have you met anyone yet?
Daughter No, not yet. But I just signed up. Mum? Mum, come on. I'll show you.
Consultant To get started with Internet dating, there are four steps. The first one is to find the service that works for you. Second step is to create your profile. Find a great picture of yourself that shows you doing something that you enjoy. Write about who you are and who you're looking for. Third step is to start searching for that special someone. Use the search function on the site to identify people in your area that you may want to hook up with. Fourth step is to reach out to those people. You write them a nice short letter. Show that you're interested in them and off it goes. After that, sit back, cross your fingers, and hope for the best.
Part 2
Daughter OK. We open the browser, we go to the website.
Carol OK.
Daughter Mum, sit down.
Carol OK.
Daughter And it's basically a search engine – a search engine for a boyfriend. So I enter my criteria. I am a woman, looking for a man between the ages of 24 and 32.
Carol OK. Interesting.
Daughter And then I click "search".
Carol OK.
Daughter And then a screen with all the candidates who meet my criteria comes up. Oh, look. "I've just come back from a safari and I'm looking for a little more adventure."
Carol He's not interested in a relationship.
Daughter "I'm 30 years old, but I still haven't found my dream lover." He's looking for someone who doesn't exist.
Carol You, you've always stayed away from unrealistic guys. Don't start now.
Daughter "I've recently broken up after 12 years of love. I'm looking for another woman just like Linda."
Carol He hasn't gotten Over Linda yet.
Daughter I've never wanted to date a guy who's still in love with someone else. "I'm desperate?"
Carol No way!
Daughter No way! No way!
Consultant Internet dating is not just for desperate people. It's become very mainstream, and the stigma has gone away. It helps because we're very busy in our professional lives now, and it gives us an easy way to meet people that we normally wouldn't come across in our day-to-day lives.
Carol Ooh!
Daughter Ooh! Doctor!
Carol Doctor!
Daughter Ski. Hello! Looking for someone who's funny and spontaneous.
Carol That's you.
Daughter He likes jazz and cycling and skiing. I like to ski.
Carol There you go.
Daughter "My perfect date is dinner at a really nice restaurant, followed by dancing."
Carol Aww ... Come on, that's great!
Daughter What's this guy?
Carol He's cute.
Daughter He's 26. He's a marketing assistant. He's looking for a woman who's confident in herself and her surroundings.
Carol That's you.
Daughter Someone who knows how to laugh.
Carol That's you.
Daughter "My perfect date is going to a small club and hearing the latest new music." That's a good answer. OK. Outdoor guy Twenty-four. Grad student.
Carol So he's smart.
Daughter "I'm looking for a really fun woman who loves the outdoors, hiking, skiing滑雪. A good sense of humor is a must."
Carol Again, funny, good sense of humor.
Daughter His perfect date is a canoe trip down a river that leads to the ocean. Swimming and a picnic on the beach.
Carol Well, you could bring the picnic part, anyway.
Consultant A great profile侧面 paints a broad picture of who you are and what you like to do with your life but does not bore the person.
It's not a book; it's a brief essay. You have to reel them in in the first five or ten seconds. Otherwise, they're going to move on to the next person.
Voice-over Carol looks for someone too.
Carol What about me?
Daughter OK. Um, looking for a man between the ages of ...
Carol Forty-five.
Daughter To...
Carol Fifty-five.
Daughter Search.
Carol Mmm! What do you think about this guy?
Daughter He's cute. Um, he's 52.
Carol He's looking for an attractive woman who is kind.
Daughter He likes to go sailing!
Carol I love that! Exotic异国 places? Come on!
Daughter What if Dad knew you were doing this right now?
Carol Oh, shush!
Listening in
Passage 1
Interviewer So - tell us about how you first met.
Amy How we first met... Oh, it wasn't very romantic.
David I thought it was very romantic.
Interviewer Why don't you begin at the beginning?
Amy Good idea. Well, I was 22 and I'd just left uni and I went on holiday to the French Alps with a girlfriend. And someone invited us to go climbing. But my friend got ill so I went without her. There was this group of about eight guys and two girls.
David There were four girls.
Amy Alright! Well, anyway, no one had told me that the mountain we were going to climb was - vertical - and that we were climbing with ropes! I was terrified, absolutely terrified, I just really hadn't expected it.
David She was terrified! I noticed her immediately. She looked so scared -she was wearing this great hat — but she was white as a sheet.
Amy Oh, I don't know about that, but I remember I was shaking all over. David came over and started talking to me and telling me how safe it was with the ropes. And he was so sweet, you know I think I fell in love with him right then.
David Yeah, it was the same with me ... We roped up and I made sure I stayed next to her ... I kept talking to her and encouraging her.
Amy It really helped. I think I would have fallen off the mountain if you hadn't done that.
David Rubbish! You were perfectly safe. Anyway, we got to the summit — it was a kind of flat area - and Amy just collapsed - she couldn't stand up!
Amy It's true, I couldn't. I felt -1 was just - everyone ignored me except David - everyone.
David Quite a few people came to talk to you.
Amy They didn't!
David They did!
Amy Well, you talked to me, and that's all that mattered.
David Thank you!
Amy So -
David So we climbed back down the mountain.
Amy which was just as bad -
David and we headed for the nearest village and we both had huge pizzas.
Amy I didn't eat a thing! I was still feeling too sick.
David You did, you know.
Amy You know, you have a terrible memory sometimes.
David So do you! ... To cut a long story short, we got married six months later and went on a three-week honeymoon to Barbados.
Amy Two weeks!
David And we've lived happily ever after.
Passage2
Presenter And now let's move on to online dating, a way of meeting a potential partner that's becoming more and more popular. James O'Hanlan and Claire Goodall are two online dating experts who are going to give all you listeners advice about how to use online dating safely and successfully. James ...
James OK. The first thing to say is, don't be nervous. A lot of people are and it's very understandable. But there's no need to be, provided you follow the rules, which we're going to tell you right now. Isn't that right, Claire?
Claire Absolutely.
James So, let's begin at the beginning. When you join an online dating site, the first thing you do is give some basic information about yourself. Now, don't be tempted to lie - about your age, for example. If you want a good relationship, you need to be honest. If you're not, you'll get found out and that could be painful.
Claire Another thing - it's a good idea to use a photo, you'll get many more replies than if you don't.
James But use a recent photo, not one that was taken ten years ago!
Claire Let's move on to the next stage. You've had some responses响应 and chosen one or two people you'd like to chat with. Now, the most important advice here is, don't give out any personal information until you're 100 per cent sure you're that happy to do so. That includes your real name, your phone numbers, your workplace address and your email address. Use the email facility设备 at the website and only give out your email address when you feel completely safe.
James And email for as long as you want, it's a great way of getting to know a person. Then, the next stage is to talk on the phone. Now that's very revealing, because you'll hear the person's voice, and also because people have to be spontaneous on the phone - they can't think about what they're going to say for half a day, unlike emails.
Claire Then, if you're feeling really comfortable, agree to meet. But always choose a public place. Don't go to someone's home.
James A cafe or bar is the best choice.
Claire And don't forget to tell a friend where you're going and what time you expect to be back. That's important.
James Another good idea is to ask the same friend to call you during the meeting so that if you want to leave quickly you can say that something urgent's come up and you have to go.
Claire That's everything! If you follow this advice you should be perfectly safe. And you may find the man -
James ... or woman —
Claire ... of your dreams!
James & Claire Happy hunting!
